Seven Weddings and a Single Girl

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 6, 2011

After a 2-month absence, I suppose I have some explaining to do. I’ve been asked if no blogging means I have a boyfriend. Nope. adidas zx 500 In fact, thanks to a hectic work schedule and a 2-week illness, my dance card has been pretty dismal since the new year – unless you count getting hit on by a 52-year-old Survivor: Redemption Island contestant. What is it with me and reality stars?


Anywho – back in the saddle…


I have seven girlfriends getting married this year. Before they all started getting engaged, I didn’t realize I even had seven girlfriends. Turns out, I do have seven girlfriends and they all happen to be getting married in 2011. What does this mean for S.A.G.?


Let’s break it down:


7 weekend wedding trips + 5 bachelorette parties + 4 bridal showers = 16 events going down between April and October. (For reference, there are 28 weekends during that time period)


I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m complaining. I love my friends, I love weddings and I can’t wait to celebrate their relationships this year. It simply becomes a topic of conversation when you’re taking roughly 12 Fridays off work.


And everyone has an opinion…


Most people bring up the money I will spend. I’m sure I could break that down too, but I choose not to for obvious reasons. Instead, I’ve decided to give into the plane travel, hotel stays, dresses and gifts with a genuine smile. Ideally, this will be the only time I celebrate weddings for these girlfriends. I can always make more money.


My Great Aunt (who incidentally has never been married) has and interesting and harsh point of view. She called me specifically to say, “This is your last opportunity to meet single men.”


S.A.G.: “OK…Hi Great Aunt…”


She interrupts and continues with very serious tone “…You’re not getting more desirable as you get older and weddings are the best place to meet single men. Don’t waste your time going to bridal showers, or other all-girl events. Go to engagement parties and wedding receptions and work them like you would a networking event. Take every man’s card and write what you like about him on the back of the card so you remember later. Then make a point to follow-up.”


Weddings = Last chance for love. Noted.


So, what is my opinion about my year-o-weddings?


This last single girl needs to meet some other single people.


Boys? Sure. But girls too.


You see, I may have 16 weekend events, but each of my engaged friends are planning the biggest event of their lives which means they spend every weekend trying on dresses, meeting photographers, testing hair and make-up combinations, having dinner with their future in-laws, and on and on.


My friends are great about finding time to hang out with me over dinner after work, but going out on Friday and Saturday nights is pretty much out of the question. Unless I want to odd-wheel it, which I often do. I once even took on the rare and coveted role of 13th wheel. It was awesome.


So there you have it. My latest mission: Meet new peeps. I’m not ashamed to admit I’m living my own, single girl version of I Love You, Man. And I’m starting immediately. This morning I ate brunch at a new place and I’m currently sitting at a new (to me) Starbucks. adidas stan smith pas cher homme So far no new friends. I tried conversing with the girl sitting next to me by pointing out that we’re wearing the same boots, but she wasn’t really having it. It’s cool. I’ll be here a while.


I also noticed there is an event titled “Fresh Meet” going on at a local bar tonight.

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5 Responses to “Seven Weddings and a Single Girl”

  1. Ari Says:

    Oh Aunt Yo- quite the words of wisdom. Let the wedding season begin!

  2. Rose Says:

    Hmm S.A.G, even I’m the last single girl amongst my girlfriends, 12 of them – all married, and except one, all of them have kids ! That means, I miss meeting with them often too, though I can’t be happier for them.Some of them crib that I should find that man soon !

    About your aunt’s advice, she may mean well, but telling you this is the last chance to meet your man, may not just help, since they trigger some tension and disappointment, which could make a girl consider a guy she may not take a 2nd look at. Not that you would do it, but generally speaking !

    I know atleast 6 or 7 women from southeast america, who got married in their early 30’s to wonderful men.So have fun and enjoy the weddings.

  3. Heather Says:

    a) Your Great Aunt sounds like she would have made a great salesperson (lol)

    b) Love happens when you’re least expecting it and rarely when you’re looking for it has always been my experience.

    c) There’s been only one wedding I missed out of all the weddings I’ve been invited to and although she and he are now statistically among the 50% of divorced couples, I still regret not having attended their wedding to this day (that’s what you getting for breaking two metatarsals slamming on the brakes barefooted to avoid an accident… only to end up being sandwiched in a 3-car rear-end collision…the moral of the story? Don’t drive barefooted!!)

    d) Being married isn’t at all the difficult task that people think it is…if you’re willing to settle, you can easily find a short, fat, bald, unemployed or abusive guy who’ll marry you…it’s being married to someone who makes your heart melt and your hormones throb that’s difficult…add earn your trust and respect into the mix and it’s like looking for a needle in a haystack. Your Great Aunt means well because at her age, she’s probably lonely for companionship and among the many who didn’t settle and living in the land of “what if I only had settled” (says the damsel who broke off an engagement at 30 and declined a marriage proposal at 40 something…but unlike your aunt, I’ve yet to find myself regretting my decision). Whichever marital status you belong to (single, married, divorced, or widowed), it comes with its own sets of challenges. The grass may indeed be greener next door but at the end of the day, everyone still needs to mow the lawn.

    e) Go…have fun…and focus not so much on the single male prospects at the weddings but rather on celebrating a very special day in your friend’s life. To bring back the sales analogy in bullet item a)…people don’t buy from people who exudes self-serving motivation or desperation, they buy from people they like ;)

    f) As for meeting new peeps (who would be more geographically desirable than the single out-of-towners you’re likely to meet at these weddings you’re flying to), consider meetup.com. Good luck :)

  4. Heather Says:

    P.S. that’s what you get (vs. getting) is what I meant to type in c)

  5. Heather Says:

    P.P.S. Was not insinuating that you’re self-serving or desperate in e) by the way…merely to share an analogy you can appreciate.

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