Upward Date/Downward Date

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 24, 2011

When I showed up on time for the ���hang out” with Yoga Instructor Guy, I was anxious. Not only had I asked out a boy (for the 2nd time), there was potential I may ruin my favorite workout with my favorite instructor.

And it’s not like I can go to one of the many other yoga studios in Santa Monica. I paid up front for the year and have 8 months to go. Why did I have to be so economical?

When I arrive at the restaurant, he’s not there and it sounds like he’s running late. So, naturally, I take a seat at the bar next to this Australian guy. We start chatting about how we’re both waiting to meet other people. He was meeting an ex-girlfriend.

We probably didn’t chat longer than 10 minutes, but he did offer up his card (turns out he’s some relatively famous footy player). I hesitated at first – having flashbacks of Sweaty Date Guy getting picked up by those girls when I was only 10 minutes late – but I took his card anyway. I figured if this date/non-date is a bust, it won’t be a total loss.

Just as I slipped the card into my back pocket, Yoga Instructor Guy walked up. After an awkward exchange of me introducing him to the footy player, we were on our way to a table.

Upon reviewing the menu we decided it might fun to share a few small plates. This is typically the kiss-of-death for me with my eating restrictions. I get ready to deliver the bad news (no cheese and only fish), when he says…

“Not to be annoying, but I don’t eat meat or dairy.���

What???!! This never happens.

Turns out he’s a vegan and wanted to soften the blow. No blow here – vegan is typically my preference.

The rest of the night was a long string of pleasant surprises: We were both involved in super dorky activities in high school (me in the marching band, him in barbershop quartet). We were also both varsity athletes. We share a love for Karaoke and flaunted our “skillz” down the street after dinner. He even mentioned a very random song in conversation, which just happens to be my favorite song of all time. Dancing in the Moonlight by King Harvest.

I began to think that writing reckless emails in the middle of the night might be the best drunken idea I���ve ever had.

Then – I was telling a story about how long I’ve been in LA and he says, “you know, you just gave away your age.”

S.A.G.: “Ha. I guess I did. It�����s cool. I’m 29. Almost 30. Nothing to hide here.”

My mind starts swirling…(or maybe I do)

S.A.G.: “How old are you?���

Yoga Instructor Guy: “I’m younger than you think.”

No no no no no. It never occurred to me, not for one moment, that he might be younger than me. Oh well. I can’t be that off.

S.A.G.: “You mean you’re younger than I think, but still older than me?”

Yoga Instructor Guy: “I���m younger than you think.”

S.A.G.: “Oh dear. Are you 24?�����  (joking)

Yoga Instructor Guy: ���That’s close enough.”

S.A.G: “Oh God. Just tell me.”

Yoga Instructor Guy: “It really doesn’t matter.”

S.A.G.: (silence)

Yoga Instructor Guy: “Ok. I���m 23.”

I found out a few minutes later his birthday was last month. Translation: 30 days ago he was 22.

Apparently, he thought I was 25 or 26 (the one and only up-side to having adult acne).

I’m not going to lie. I felt disappointed. I think he could tell. He went on to say that he has no problem with our age difference and doesn’t think it needs to mean anything.

I decided to put it out of my mind. I mean, he does sing a pretty ridiculous Cee-Lo. So we went on with our night and had an amazing time.

So…The date was awesome. He’s 7 years younger.  Is this dating situation facing upward or downward?

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8 Responses to “Upward Date/Downward Date”

  1. Rose Says:

    Wow ! I was so happy to hear how you both clicked ! An exciting and nice date !

    Clever images, love your creativity posting them here !

    It’s not a surprise, but most yoga instructors ( and some serious students ) are vegans or vegetarians ! It’s part of what makes them easily flexible , and it’s part of yoga – vegetarianism !

    I too am one !

    If you two have a great time and have the almost same maturity levels, and as long as it doesn’t bother you both, I think it should be good ! :-)

  2. lifebeginsat30ty Says:

    My step-dad is 11 years younger than my mom. Works for them! If you guys are both at the same emotional place in your lives, I don’t see why it should matter. Sounds like you had a great time, that’s what matters :)

  3. David (Keep It Up, David) Says:

    Did you ever watch Jenny Jones or Ricki Lake? I’m going to tell you what 8,000 strong, sassy panelists and audience members said during the two decades that those two shows were collectively on the air: “Age ain’t nuttin’ but a number, baby.” Then there’s often some sort of finger snapping.

  4. Kristen Says:

    It doesn’t matter the age difference. When I met my guy he was 21 and I was 28. Now I’m 30 and he’s not yet 23. We love each other and are happy! it’s funny, I was totally freaked out by the age difference, but has never thought it was weird. If you had a good time with him, it’s not his fault he was born after you… just have fun and see where it goes!

  5. Rose Says:

    oh btw S.A.G, did you get together with the guy you met at the bar ? IMHO, I think it would be a good idea to do so, if you had fun talking to him, since it’s not like you’re exclusive with the yoga teacher guy after just one date, even though you guys had fun together.

    It could also gives you a better perspective of things.After a few dates, if you don’t like one, you could leave the non-fun guy and still date the other.How ’bout that ?

  6. Whitney Says:

    Oh boy do I feel old now that you are telling stories of feeling old! I’d say go for it, then if gets more serious, find out if he wants to wait until mid-30s for marriage/kids….

  7. Rose Says:

    Oh S.A.G ! I came across a situation similar to yours recently and I just got reminded of this post of yours, and wanted to share that I feel in the same boat as your’s. Also how regular are you to yoga classes now ? :-)

  8. Rose Says:

    S.A.G, I really miss reading your blog updates ! :-) Just don’t want to sound too eager, but you’ve become one of my girlfriends, and just thought of dropping a line to say – love your humor and writing style and you’re very much appreciated for it !