Taking a page from “The Bachelorette”

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 25, 2010


Ali and her men (scratch out Frank)

Ali and her men (scratch out Frank)



I’m not a huge fan of The Bachelor, but I never miss a season of The Bachelorette. I have two reasons for this:


1. It’s entertaining to watch grown men get insanely jealous when the girl they like goes out with other people. (Hi Kettle, I’m Pot. You’re black).

2. This show is a perfect example of a woman being forced to listen to my Grammy’s Dating Advice. By design, she is dating multiple guys at the same time before making the biggest decision of her life.


Let’s be real. adidas messi 2017 In real life, Ali would have met hot Roberto and immediately cancelled her dates with Frank and Chris because she would never want to potentially ruin an opportunity with the seemingly perfect, gorgeous, x-baseball player. Openly dating multiple guys at the same time (and accepting over-night dates with each one in Tahiti) is frowned upon in the real world.


But should it? Are we (ladies) setting ourselves up for failure by clinging to the best available option, shunning all other men and dating exclusively for years until we break down and get married? We might as well get married to these guys after the 4th date. Isn’t it the same thing?


That’s what I love about watching this show. Whether Ali likes it or not (and I tend to believe she does) she is forced to compare and contrast these guys over a total of 3 months to find the best fit for her. The only thing that is that this is a show. They are on camera 24/7 and the only “alone” time they ever have is in that overnight suite. Not the makings for a strong relationship (hello Vienna and Jake).


So maybe I should take a page from The Bachelorette and give this a shot in the real world.


I’ve been thinking about this over the past few days because I came home after work this week to find a CD tucked in the bars of my screen door with a note from Apartment B. louboutin homme The CD was of some music he’d been playing one night that I said sounded good on my way up the stairs. The card was his business card and on the back it said, “Call me or stop in anytime. Love to get a drink with you!”


The idea of dating someone in my apartment building brings up a whole new host of Melrose Place-type issues that we can get into another time.


For now, let’s dive into the fact that I am still hanging out with Hot Shy Guy (HSG) – even though I’ve halted writing about him, at the impassioned request of my more vocal readers. And while we have not talked about being exclusive, I do feel that he might be frustrated if I accept drinks with Apartment B.


That said, I also feel that at 29, I would be doing myself a disservice by dismissing other date requests just because I’ve passed the four-date-mark with HSG.


I think the best thing to do is to mention to HSG that it’s important to me that I don’t get too serious too fast, and then hope for the best. Oy. I’m such a dude.


So. A real life Bachelorette. adidas yeezy I’m sure I can handle it. I mean, I already successfully navigated a “Group Date” when I went 4 for 7 on Valentine’s Day.

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2 Responses to “Taking a page from “The Bachelorette””

  1. lifebeginsat30ty Says:

    I think until (or if) HSG and you are exclusive, then you can date whoever you want. I think we should all assume that the other person is dating others until it is said otherwise ;)

  2. Rose Says:

    I do agree with lifebeginsat30ty :-) Btw, that’s a cool user name !

    Unless specified otherwise, I’d assume the person is dating others too, and date other interesting men. After all, it’s not ‘coz of my age( which is same as your’s), but ‘coz I’m not mutually exclusive so early, and dating multiple people can give better perspective on dating and life.

    You’ve a great attitude S.A.G. Way to go, girl !

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