You say dating, I say relationship…Tomato, Tomaaato

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 5, 2010

I’m going to need some help here. I’m trying to figure out what happens after date #2.


Take Confusing-Name Guy, for example. We had two great dates and while I was open to date #3, I got the feeling that he was looking for something of the more serious genre when he suggested that we go out on New Years Eve and sent a few intense text messages.


I did accept a 3rd date (just not on NYE) and I purposely backed-off a bit because clearly I had been too charming on dates 1 and 2 (it happens ;-) ).


After the date he called me as I was driving home and asked if something was wrong. He said he could sense that maybe I wasn’t as “into it” anymore. After coming to terms with the fact that I was about to have a “talk” after only 3 dates, I pulled over my car and I told him that maybe I “freaked out” because I’m not feeling ready for a relationship, but I get the impression that he is.


He sounded relieved as he responded and said, “I think it is a good sign that you’re freaked out, but we can totally dial it back…maybe we can just date monogamously and not worry about getting any more serious right now.”


…I get the feeling that we’re having a slight communication breakdown. adidas homme I’m picturing a dating scenario where we hang out until it’s clear that we’re right for each other or until it’s clearly not fun anymore, and he is looking for an exclusive dating relationship after a grand total of 9 hours of dating. Is my long-term dating request totally off base?


I asked my boy neighbor this question and apparently it is. He says that “if you’re really into someone” you will start seriously dating them after 2 or 3 dates. If you’re not, you will stop seeing each other and move on. adidas superstar soldes I am determined to prove him wrong, but so far I have not been on more than 3 dates with the same guy – so maybe he is right.


This takes us back to Grammy’s Dating Rule where apparently (in her day) you weren’t tied down to one guy until he popped the question and you had the ring on your finger. You actually had time to get-to-know someone before becoming exclusive. I realize I’m not going to be able to swing her exact rule in 2010 (maybe a quick stop in Tiffany on date #4??), but I’m going to see how close I can get.

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2 Responses to “You say dating, I say relationship…Tomato, Tomaaato”

  1. Single.Approachable.Guy. Says:

    your neighbor’s an ass. you’re absolutely right that you need more than 3 dates to feel dat ish out. as you mentioned, 3 dates = 9 hours. that’s just a little more than an average work day. i know it took me about a week to realize i hate everyone i work with and that’s just a professional relationship ;)

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