Works great to filter out weeds and get great dates !

Yes, I think players are always honest ! They give too many signs at the start that they’re “casual”. Obviously no one expects commitment initially, but those guys are just tooooo “casual” in dating.

Btw, You’re a real smooth-talker ! S.A.G, this guy sounds fun, but again, if I were you … I’d find out my priorities and also keep in mind his previous behavior, before I go out with him !

I still think he should have been clear if it’s a non-date or a date ? So, this is what he did :

1) Asks you out for a date on your blog !

2) Emails you

3) talks about “main squeeze” – ( look at the way he calls her ), dog girl and his ex who he keeps in touch with

4) After reading your post, makes up for all of it with his humor that he now wants a non-date , like he’s one of the girls ?

He sounds really awesome to me S.A.G ! Keep his humor aside, and see how his actions don’t match his attractive words or his sense of humor. The above 4 points don’t sound good to me, if you’re looking for someone who respects you in real.

And I don’t know how anyone can be fun, if they lack that basic respect.

I also agree with Whitney. While I was really looking forward to taking you out on a date, I find I’m much more interested in sharing dating stories with you. I thought maybe we could have both, but I realize now how bad this all sounds (thanks for this). Or maybe we could have had both, but I did it wrong. (Especially the part where I made you my backup plan!) Anyway I’m sorry I asked you out and then told you about all these girls. I’d also like to apologize to your readers, as we would have given them a new date to read about. Whitney had even suggested that we webcast our date so all of you could watch. I was all for it!

I haven’t actually “dated” a whole lot (mostly long term relationships including lots of suffering, but a few good ones more recently). And I’m brand new to this dating multiple people thing, so I am pretty excited about it, and you seem like a perfect person to talk to about all of it, both to share stories and to get a girl’s point of view on things.

Would you still consider getting together for a “non-date” sometime? In a well-lit area with a group of people, perhaps? I was actually hoping you could also talk with a few good female friends of mine (just friends) who would be really happy for some dating advice right now. One just got out of a 10-year relationship and wants to start dating but doesn’t know how. And the other has been doing the online dating thing but meeting lots of “douchebags” who among other things lie about their height. It would be great to all get together sometime and talk relationships. Just us girls

Sierra, yes I’ve been open with the girls I’ve been dating about my dating other people (though not nearly as brutally open as I’ve been with SAG!).

Anita, players are always honest?

But since you seem weirded out (which I don’t blame you for), I say you do a few group events before going on a date date with him.

(Yes, I probably broke a guy rule by saying all that, but I figured I’d chime in).

Whoosh ! You’re currently not dating anyone, keep writing in your blogs, and say he’s your alternate. Sounds pretty harsh and terrible.

He just wants to catch the attention of as many women as he can. In other words, he screams ” Player”. And those people are always honest right from the start.

I’d run far,far away and not continue email communication anymore.You don’t need your waste your energy pondering over him, when you could be spending it for yourself or with a really great date.

Just reading those select lines turned me off.