Going it alone

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 21, 2010

People (specifically other single women) often ask me how I meet new people (AKA men).


I don’t know that I have an answer for them. But, I do have a tendency to go places on my own (a la Private Party Crasher) and I’ll tell you right now, it’s a great way to meet people. My theory is that there’s nothing more approachable than a girl, comfortable enough to hang out by herself in a public place.


Obviously, you can’t be retarded about it. I’m not suggesting that single girls in LA go hang out at Union Station late at night. Here. I’ll provide an example…


Last week I got home from work with lots of energy. Staying home was not an option, so I took my laptop to Coffee Bean and did a little writing. That went on for about 1 hour before some smelly old guy sat down right next to me and it was time to keep it movin’. I started walking and remembered that the local bar by my house has karaoke on Monday nights, so I stopped in to check it out.


The place was pretty empty but I’m friends with the bartender so I sat down at the bar and ordered a drink. That’s right – it only took 3 weeks to befriend the local bartender…is that a problem?:) I figured I would have one drink, sing one song and go home to bed.


Fast forward two hours…


I’ve had two healthily-poured glasses of wine, I’ve sung 4 songs (but whose counting), I’m playing a dice game called “Shut the Box” with an old English guy and two guys sporting mustaches, and the karaoke guy is referring to me by nickname over the loudspeaker to come up to the stage and sing “A Whole New World” (from Aladdin) with him.


Did I mention this is a Monday night??


The only other people singing are a boy and a girl on their 2nd date. Next thing you know, the karaoke guy, the 2nd date couple and I are all on stage singing Journey together – switching off parts and harmonies. I ended up going home just before 1 AM. So much for my one-and-one-and-bed plan.


I realize that this scene is not for everyone. 80’s rock karaoke and old English dice games aren’t in high demand with lots of girls in L.A. But, as it happens, over the next few days I was contacted by the karaoke guy, mustache #1, mustache #2 and 2nd date guy (woops).


No, I did not give my phone number to all these people (just mustache #2), but you’d be surprised how good some people are at finding you on Facebook.


See. I told you the sabbatical was over.


Shut The Box




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2 Responses to “Going it alone”

  1. Anita Says:

    you rock, girl for going it alone ! Looking for more posts now that the sabbatical is over !

    If you tell someone your full name ( first name and your family name), it’s quite easy to find you on face book, if they’re interested enough.

    May be you could tell them you’re called S.A.G. to prevent yourself from facebook requests. Just kidding ! :-) )

  2. Josh Says:

    Behold the power of Journey….

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