The Friend Zone

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
August 3, 2009

As I’ve mentioned in the past, I struggle with telling someone that it’s not working out. My friends (both girls and guys) make it sound so easy; “just don’t call/text him back,” “be honest and tell him you don’t see it going anywhere.” Well, as we learned with The Texter, the former doesn’t necessarily work. Let’s take a stab at the latter.


I was seeing this guy and after a few decent dates, we were hanging out and watching TV and he kissed me. I allowed it to continue while I pondered what I was going to say. Now, I’m not saying that this was a light-bulb-over-the-head moment, but here’s how it went…


I stopped him and (fairly awkwardly) told him that for some reason, in my mind, he was in “the friend zone.” I told him that I couldn’t put a finger on why…I just knew it was how I felt.


It was honest, well intentioned and straight to the point. Success? Not quite sure…


After telling me that he understood, there was a fair amount of silence and then he unexpectedly lunged at me with an overly passionate kiss – which I’m guessing was an attempt at literally climbing out of the figurative friend zone.


I stopped him and suggested that maybe I should call him a cab. Apparently, he had interpreted my rejection as some sort of dating challenge(?). I was very confused. Even more so when he attempted the same lunge move two more times before the cab arrived.


The search for an effective, but kind, brush-off continues…

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