Girls with Boyfriends are Boring

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 29, 2012

When was the last time you saw a romantic comedy (or even just a comedy) where the lead girl had a boyfriend? How about a sitcom? I’m sure they’re out there (is that show Whitney doing well?), but there’s a reason single girls are the preferred heroines…

Girls with boyfriends are boring.

At least that’s what I [...]

Get out of my way, S.A.G.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
February 4, 2012

In my “Sorry S…” post, I asked you to guess who knocked-off the “S” in S.A.G. I then revealed it was Hot Shy Guy. As I thought about how to share the story, I realized I should not give him all the credit.  I mean, you’re great and all HSG, but here’s how it really [...]

Sorry S…

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 19, 2012

I have acquired a boyfriend. Grandma and Great Aunt are thrilled. S.A.G. readers, not so much.

Our relationship has been developing over the past 3-4 months and I’ve been hesitant to write for a couple of reasons:
1. As much as I love this blog, the instant gratification of clicking on “publish” pales in comparison to a real-live [...]

Nobody Likes a Whiner

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 22, 2011

When I finished writing at the bar last Saturday night, it was about 10 PM. air jordan 5 By then, I was two beers in, the crowd was starting to pick up and I figured one drink – and some socializing – at the bar was entirely appropriate. I took a peek at the available [...]

Let’s Talk Thirty

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 19, 2011

I’m currently sitting in a booth at my favorite bar in Santa Monica with a Chimay and my iPad. It’s 8:08 on a Saturday Night. I’m wearing glasses. I’m likely the lamest person ever to go to a bar on a Saturday night.

Just two weeks ago I was at this same bar with a large [...]

Blind Date Wedding

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 15, 2011

My best friend since I was 5 lives in San Fransisco and her fiance (she’s one of my 7 weddings this Summer) has this friend from work who had a wedding to go to in South Orange County 2 weeks ago. He knew he wanted to take a date because the wedding was going to [...]

Fresh Meet

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 14, 2011

True to my word, I went to the “Fresh Meet” event at a local bar last Sunday night. I figured, I need to meet some new, fresh people. Why not? I thought it was a little odd that it started at 10 PM on a Sunday night, but didn’t let it stop me. As I handed my ID to the bouncer, I noticed a confused look on his face, but it didn’t hit me until after I walked in why. Turns out “Fresh Meet” was not a mingling mixer for singles in my neighborhood. It was a Hip-Hop/Rap amateur night and I stuck out like a sore, very pale, thumb…

Seven Weddings and a Single Girl

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 6, 2011

I have seven girlfriends getting married this year. Before they all started getting engaged, I didn’t realize I even had seven girlfriends. Turns out, I do have seven girlfriends and they all happen to be getting married in 2011. What does this mean for S.A.G.? Let’s break it down: 7 weekend wedding trips + 5 bachelorette parties + 4 bridal showers = 16 events going down between April and October. (For reference, there are 28 weekends during that time period)…

Man Arms Strikes Again

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 28, 2011

Back in the 3rd grade, our desks were not organized in perfect rows. Instead, we sat in pairs with two desks right up against each other. I was seated next to a boy and on the first day of school, he turned to me, pointed, and said, “you have man arms!”

(I realize this girl is [...]

Unfashionable in Michigan

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 22, 2011

In my insecure twenties I loved going home to Michigan. This “approachably attractive” girl, by Los Angeles standards, felt down right hot in Michigan. As soon as the plane would touch down at DTW, my confidence level would bump up 3 points and I would strut my North Face vest all the way to baggage [...]

One Hot Mess-y Break-up

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 9, 2011

A guy I know just saw Bridesmaids and found it rather sad because “Kristen Wiig’s character’s life gets more and more depressing throughout the movie.” I told him I didn’t it see it that way and he replied that his other girlfriends told him that girls aren’t really phased by that aspect of the movie [...]

OK. Now I’m offended.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 4, 2011

I met up with one of the guys from my “Never Say No” post and he reminded me why many girls “Say No.”

We met at Sunday brunch – the easiest possible date for me. I almost always go to brunch so a brunch date doesn’t take me out of my normal routine. Also, brunch dates [...]

Never Say No

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 1, 2011

It would be fair to say it’s been a bit of a slow Summer in the “guy” department for the old S.A.G. oakley sale 2014 – as you probably gathered that from my willingness to go on the Blind Date Destination Wedding. Really, aside from that, I can’t say I’ve gone on formal date [...]

The Offensive Side of Dating

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 10, 2011

Unfortunately for me, I’m not referring to a line of scrimmage.

The well-documented “other-race effect” finds that people are less likely to remember a face from a racial group different from their own. Northwestern University researchers set out to determine what causes this rift in perception and memory by using electroencephalogram (EEG) recordings, which measure brain [...]

Hot Married Bartender Guy

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 17, 2011

About  month ago, I had my birthday party at my favorite bar in Santa Monica. When we first got there, I was pleased to find that the bartender in charge of my party was the dark and handsome bartender I had noticed a time or two before.  I was simultaneously displeased to find a ring [...]

Upward Date/Downward Date

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 24, 2011

When I showed up on time for the ���hang out” with Yoga Instructor Guy, I was anxious. Not only had I asked out a boy (for the 2nd time), there was potential I may ruin my favorite workout with my favorite instructor.

And it’s not like I can go to one of the many other yoga [...]

Fresh Meet continued

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 21, 2011

Continued from Fresh Meet…

I spent the entire next day second guessing my decision to email my yoga instructor in the middle of the night and suggest we hang out. On one hand, I was mortified for inappropriately crossing the yoga instructor/yogi line (whatever that is) and for doing so at 12:30 AM on a Sunday [...]

100 posts. Still Single. Still Approachable. Still a Girl.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 18, 2011

I realize I have left you hanging for Part 2 of Fresh Meet – and I promise to continue the story very soon – but it just occurred to me that Fresh Meet was my 100th post! I’ll tell you, those 100 posts have given much more to me than I put into them, but knowing you’re reading is the most rewarding part. I considered posting my favorite posts to celebrate this event, but then figured, I should post YOUR favorite posts. So here they are. The posts that have gotten the most love since April 2009…


Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 3, 2011

If I wasn’t already feeling like a complete asshole for inflating this guy’s ego by intentionally handing him my card (i.e. all the power in this dating scenario), Part 4 of this saga is right around the corner to sucker punch me in the face, point, and laugh…

Part 3: Ok, ok. I get it.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 31, 2010

…Oh yes. I almost forgot to mention…Further questioning about the puppy unearthed the expected truth that he and his mom “share the puppy.” Translation: The puppy lives with my mom and I hold the leash when we go to the farmer’s market…

Part 2: Let me count the ways

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 29, 2010

As I prepared for my date with Cute Guy with a Puppy at the Farmers Market, I tempered my anticipation for the date by reminding myself how first impressions can be misleading. There was a good chance I could be disappointed by my “catch” from the Farmers Market. But, being the eternal optimist, I couldn’t help but think, “what could possibly be that wrong with him?” He rescued a deaf puppy from the side of the road, he has a good relationship with his mother, he appreciates a small-town LA farmer’s market…he was tall…By the time I met him at the restaurant/bar I was thrilled to put an end to the ping pong match in my head and see first-hand what Cute Guy with a Puppy is all about. That didn’t take too long…

Part 1: Cute Guy with a Puppy

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 24, 2010

The morning after the bad blind date (The Easy Out) I’ll admit I was feeling a little down. The idea that such a dorky guy would have wanted an easy out from me was minorly upsetting and was likely the motivation behind this next scenario…

The Easy Out

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 21, 2010

When I was in college, a girlfriend and I went to Cabo San Lucas for Spring Break. At one of the bars, a boy came up to us and asked my friend how she would rate him on a scale from 1 – 10. Horrible pick-up line aside, her response was, “I wouldn’t rate you at all because you’re too short for me.” This is the girl that set me up on a blind date last weekend. It’s safe to say I was in good hands…

Shocker: Bike Shop Guy is a Pothead

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 11, 2010

I voted to legalize marijuana with the best of them, but if there’s something I’ve learned dating LA boys, it’s that a habitual smoker is not the best match for me. There’s only so much of The Simpsons, South Park and Family Guy one girl can take…

Shedding my mask in time for Halloween

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 30, 2010

I just smiled for the first time in over a week. It’s not that I haven’t wanted to smile, I simply couldn’t. It’s been sheer torture. For the first time since middle school, I’ve been battling a cold sore. If you’ve ever had one, you feel my pain. You and Michael Scott from The Office 2 weeks ago…

Guessing Mustache #2 is Younger

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 28, 2010

At my age (close to 30-ish), I exist in this gray area between dating guys in their 30’s and guys in their 20’s. Typically, the distinction between the two is fairly apparent, but in LA, you can’t always be so certain.

In LA you have guys that dress in shorts and flip flops everyday, make lots [...]

NY Readers: Win tickets to a great new show!

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 25, 2010

If you live in NY (or close to it) check out this post! I’m giving away tickets to Miss Abigail’s Guide to Dating, Mating & Marriage! . It’s the story of Miss Abigail, the most sought-after relationship expert to the stars (think Dr. Ruth meets Emily Post), and her sexy sidekick Paco, as they travel the world teaching Miss Abigail’s outrageously funny “how-to’s” on dating, mating and marriage!…

Taking a page from “The Bachelorette”

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 25, 2010

I’m not a huge fan of The Bachelor, but I never miss a season of The Bachelorette. I have two reasons for this: 1. It’s entertaining to watch grown men get insanely jealous when the girl they like goes out with other people. (Hi Kettle, I’m Pot. you’re black). 2. This show is a perfect example of a woman being forced to listen to my Grammy’s Dating Advice. By design, she is dating multiple guys at the same time before making the biggest decision of her life…

No I will not buy you stemware

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 23, 2010

I’m not going to pretend to know a lot about wedding etiquette. Thanks to my poor correspondence skills with non-best-friends, I’ve only been to 3 or 4 weddings in my life. But even with my lack of wedding experience, I must say that I find what just happened to me to be pretty tacky – and this coming from a girl who 8 times out of 10 shows up to a dinner party empty-handed…

Back to brunette – like riding a bike

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 23, 2010

As I began to mention in my last post, my dance card has been pretty open recently. I believe it’s no coincidence this happened to be the same 7-week period I was sporting blonde hair – thanks to a minor miscommunication with my stylist – but that’s another theory for another time. For now, I’m back to brown, feeling more like myself and I’ve been taking my new ‘do’ for a spin, both figuratively and literally…

Guest Post by Rebecca: Worst Date(s) of My Life, Part 1

Author: GuestBlogger
November 22, 2010

…I pick up to listen to a pathetic excuse why my date will be 45 minutes late. He’d been “hanging out with the guys” and lost track of time. Also, his friend was having a bad day and my date decided to bring him along to make sure he didn’t do himself any harm. In light of this, I agreed. I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea of being responsible for some guy’s life just because I didn’t want to share the booth at T.G.I. Friday’s…

29 Stole My Cute

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 21, 2010

3 weeks ago I turned 29. I know what you’re thinking. Big deal. It’s not 30. You’re still in your 20’s and that is still considered young. I thought the same thing. Until I celebrated my birthday in Michigan…at my 24-year-old cousin’s engagement party…

Uh oh. Simmer Down, S.A.G.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 20, 2010

Since ending the sabbatical, I’ve been stood up by Mustache #2, I lost a Friday night to the Friday Night Thief and I revisited a previous dater (I didn’t write about it, but let’s just say, 3rd time was not a charm with Friend Zone Guy).

That said, it shouldn’t be a complete shock that I’m [...]

Accidental date sabotage

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 14, 2010

On Friday night a girlfriend and I went to this great one-act show on La Brea called, I Made Out With Him Anyway. (No explanation needed as to why I would like this)….

Guest Post by Chit Chat Dan: Wingmen

Author: GuestBlogger
November 13, 2010

In many ways, it’s a little bit of a relief. Both of my best local “wingmen” so to speak have been dumped by their girlfriends this week. I say that entirely selfishly, after all, I did help to hook them both together.

Of course, I feel for them, however, I was lacking options on a night [...]

Guest Post by Anonymous Girl: The Cheapest of the Cheap

Author: GuestBlogger
November 10, 2010

And so he took me to a Drive-Thru Burger King. He turns his engine off, while we wait for our order. I wanted to order chicken burger with Fries and a Drink, he asked, “are you sure you’re that hungry?”…

On my own agai…

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 9, 2010

This is what my fridge looks like right now. If you’re having trouble seeing, it is occupied only by my Brita water filter, Earth Balance vegan butter and an expired Fage yogurt which I haven’t’ thrown out because I don’t want it to smell up my kitchen. Yes, I realize I can just take the trash out and that vegan butter and Greek yogurt are an icebox oxymoron, but that’s not where I’m going with this…

Note to self: Other people are important too

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 6, 2010

I am the baby of my family. (I’m pretty sure I just heard all the first-sibling readers grumble “that figures” under their breath) Well, as most people with youngest siblings know, the baby is typically the center of attention – which we love. And while it can be a lot of pressure to deliver a stellar “performance” at every family meal, I take my baby-sister role very seriously and often execute with gusto…

You say dating, I say relationship…Tomato, Tomaaato

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 5, 2010

..I get the feeling that we are having a slight communication breakdown. I’m picturing a dating scenario where we hang out until it’s clear that we’re right for each other or until it’s clearly not fun anymore, and he is looking for an exclusive dating relationship after a grand total of 9 hours of dating. Is my long-term dating request totally off base?…

Day Lights Dating Time

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 1, 2010

I joked about March Madness last year when I randomly had three dates in one weekend. And, I’m embarrassed to admit (because it is such a boy thing to do) that there were enough daters in March of last year that my friend and I created an S.A.G. March Madness dating bracket. mu legend [...]

Bland with a chance of hypothermia

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 1, 2010

…I know what you’re thinking. “That doesn’t sound like a funny dating story.” I thought the same thing. But I didn’t want to be too judgmental, so asked him if he had any others. In fact, he did. The following is his 2nd funny dating story – as told by Cute Guy with a Boat…

Heavy Flirting Melts Laptop

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 30, 2010

…So one sunny afternoon, I’ve posted up outside a Coffee Bean at the fire pit – since I officially think 60 degrees feels cool after 10 years in LA – and I’m typing away. A guy walks up with two small puppies and he’s struggling to tie their leashes to a table leg. He looks up at me and asks if I would be kind enough to watch his puppies while he grabs a drink. Would I..!…

How “A-boat” not

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 28, 2010

In my recent post, What is wrong with you anyway?, I questioned: what is wrong with Cute Guy with a Boat? Then I went on to scold myself for automatically assuming that he wasn’t a great catch.

Well, after a fairly painful phone conversation the other night, I think we might have our answer. air [...]

Post-school popularity: Can I date a dork?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 27, 2010

My popularity peaked in the 5th grade. Those were the good old days. I was teacher’s pet, the PE teacher always appointed me to pick the teams in gym class and I was the only girl invited to play wall-ball with the boys during lunch. AND, the cutest boy in school (who looked like the kid from Jerry Maguire) asked me to “go out.” Together we ruled recess. Then I went to middle school…

A sweaty first impression

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 21, 2010

In my attempt to simmer down about the date, I left work a little later than I should have. classic short womens ugg boots When I got home, I only had only 5 minutes to re-apply make-up and get out the door. Lebron James I had chosen a location that I could walk [...]

Unsolicited flower delivery! From…

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 19, 2010

On Friday, I came back to work from lunch to find a beautiful bouquet of flowers on my desk. I took a moment of pause because in all my years of working I have never received unsolicited flowers. In fact, the two times I’ve received flowers were when I had a death in the family and when my now ex-boyfriend reluctantly sent me carnations in a wicker basket after I told him to send me flowers (he had really messed up). (btw – the carnations didn’t help his cause)…

…Apparently I am. Dating coupon backlash.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 17, 2010

I have to admit I was a bit relieved when I read the reader’s comments to my most recent post about Ex-Coworker Guy. It was good to see that I wasn’t the only person feeling awkward about dating the most considerate guy on the planet. You see, despite my girlfriend’s relentless opinions that a dating coupon is totally adorable and sweet, there was something about it, coupled with the 3rd-date gift, that made me incredibly uncomfortable (even though I know he didn’t intend to make me feel that way). I’ve deduced a few reasons for this…

Wait. That wasn’t lobster?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 15, 2010

…Now. I’m the jackass-know-it-all that ordered Omakase, so I’m not at liberty to make a face, let alone turn them away. And poor 1st eHarmony Date Guy is a boy, so he’s not allowed to turn down any food challenge – especially one presented to him, unintentionally, by his date…

At least I know what I want…

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 12, 2010

…my girlfriend and I went out to dinner and were analyzing my taste in guys (I know. Shocking). She was saying that I’m very picky when it comes to guys and I was saying that I just feel like I know more now about what I’m looking for and what I’m not willing to invest in when it comes to guys. I was painting a picture of a pretty mature guy. A man if you will. Someone who knows who he is, what he wants and where he’s going but doesn’t take himself all too seriously. It really sounded like I had my shit together. Then we went to the bar…

Am I too selfish for this guy? Heather, don’t answer that.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 6, 2010

…I’m not sure if it has to do with getting older or my most recent boyfriend – who bought me a sit-up ball and weights on my birthday and sent me flowers (AKA carnations) one time in 3.5 years – but I seem to have lost my thoughtful dating instincts. Since I’ve been dating in Los Angeles, this hasn’t really been an issue – as you’ve read. But thanks to Ex-Coworker Guy, I’m suddenly feeling very self-conscious about how selfish I am in dating – no thanks to my readers, I might add…

The Stalking Network

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 29, 2010

…Here’s the situation…In the last month I have run into 2 current girlfriends of my ex-boyfriends. Now, when I say, “run into” what I really mean is, I saw them out in public and recognized them. No, I had never met them before. And no, my ex-boyfriend’s were not with them at the time. The reason I knew they were the new women in my ex-dater’s lives is that I have seen them in photos on the boy’s Facebook pages…

Oh, you’re good.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 25, 2010

Since I have a fairly strict policy about not dating guys at work, I was anxious to see if a work-crush would ask me out now that I switched jobs. I was also nervous for a non-crush to ask me out. “I don’t date people I work with” is a great excuse…that is until you leave your job. Happily, a crush came through on my last day…

Make Out or Hold Out?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 12, 2010

…Then, last year my mom gave me “Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man,” by Steve Harvey – that’s right, the comedian. His book is written on the premise that he was a huge sleaze-ball, so he knows what other sleaze-ball guys are thinking. He wrote this book to warn his daughters (and other girls) how to avoid the sleaze-balls and find a man that actually wants to marry you…

Vacation Over: First Day of School

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 8, 2010

I wish I could say that Single. Approachable. Girl. has been sunning herself in the tropics for a month, or touring Europe without sufficient internet access, but this was not that kind of vacation. Instead, I took an unexpected leave of absence from blogging to get a new job – one that will keep me on my toes and help pay for S.A.G. internet access. And, as my grandmother so skillfully pointed out, a new job is a great place to meet new men (she always has one eye on the prize, that one)…

Honesty. I, for one, feel better.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
August 8, 2010

…So when we got to my place I hurried into the bathroom with some paper towels and surface spray and started wiping down the bathroom floor. It was very Monica, from friends. HSG: If you’re worried about a little dirt on the floor, you must be horrified by my place. S.A.G.: No I’m not. (uncomfortable pause)…

“There’s a thin line between rapist and aggressive”

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
August 8, 2010

There’s really not much else to say. This is a direct quote from my date with Apartment B. Happily, I have three locks on my door.

“Is that a mirror in your pants?” would have sufficed

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 24, 2010

I’m embarrassed to admit that I haven’t met many of my neighbors yet, but maybe that’s just the way it is in apartment buildings. Even when I do run into them, we’re merely laundry baskets passing in the night. But, being a single, approachable girl, I suppose I was bound to meet my single guy neighbor eventually. I just didn’t realize the theatrics that would be involved…

Blog? What blog?!

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 14, 2010

I’ve always known there is a limit to how long I can date someone without telling them about the blog. Since most daters come and go within 3-4 dates, I haven’t yet reached that limit. But I have pictured what I would say to someone and how I would ease them into it once I was ready to share this side of myself. (sigh)…best-laid plans…

It’s hard to stay skinny in L.A. with all this thick skin

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 9, 2010

…If I wasn’t self-conscious leaving the house that night, I sure as hell was now. On the car ride home I just kept thinking about the hours I was floating around that bar in an over-sized plaid shirt-dress in a state of blissful ignorance, all the while boys and girls were picturing me on that “Citizen’s Arrest” page in US Weekly. Can’t a girl have one bad outfit night?! Not one?…

I’m not as psycho as that looked. Really.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 2, 2010

…So, we were out on Monday night at a small-venue concert. If you follow me on Twitter, you may remember this was the night I accidentally ate garlic for dinner and realized on my way to the date I was wearing the exact same outfit I had worn on our previous date. (Happily, he didn’t notice, or didn’t say anything…about the garlic breath or the repeat ensemble)…

Does my neck look fat to you?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 1, 2010

…All of a sudden I’m feeling like maybe I have a freakishly thick swimmer’s neck. I bought this from the blouse section at T.J. Maxx (that’s were they shuffle the 29+ women to shop, by the way). Who do they expect shops in the T.J. Maxx blouse section? Ma’ams with boobs, hips and anorexic necklines?…

Guest Post by Boyfriendy Boy: Interoffice, Part 2

Author: GuestBlogger
June 30, 2010

…So one Saturday night several weeks later, she invited me to a bar to meet up with her and her friends. I show up sober and she’s pretty drunk which is never a good combination; so I decide to even the score. Three tequila shots and a vodka-tonic later and I’m whispering inappropriate compliments when her friends aren’t looking. And before I know it, we’re back at her place…

Guest Post by Boyfriendy Boy: Interoffice, Part 1

Author: GuestBlogger
June 29, 2010

I can’t help being a boyfriendy boy. Seems like every girl I meet in Detroit is desperate for a normal guy, and I’m the sucker that ends up in relationships that get too serious too fast. I once met a girl’s parents on a 3rd date. I once went on a 14-hour first date. I’ve made out with my close girl friends only to later realize that they thought we were “meant for each other.” I’ve had a girl cry on a first date in the middle of making out because she “liked me too much” and “didn’t want to freak me out by not spending the night.” I once moved in with a girlfriend without understanding that meant marriage or heartbreak (you can guess how that one ended)…

Previously homeless. Red flag?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 27, 2010

I do not consider myself judgmental. I like pretty much everyone – with exception to people that purposely try to hurt me (fairly rare) or people with really limp handshakes (drives me nuts. I mean, seriously. Firm grip or bust.) So it didn’t really occur to me to second-guess one of my current daters when he told me that he lived out of his car for 3 months a while back…

I’m listening

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 18, 2010

…In one of our conversations, she told me that, as a Gemini, I have an openness that makes people comfortable and willing to share personal information with me. Over the years, this quality has provided endless entertainment, on airplanes in particular – like the time a women told me why she became a born-again virgin before take-off…

The Axe-ter Effect

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
May 12, 2010

I’ve been Axed. I have spent the entire day at work reeking of Axe Body Spray and (don’t fall out of your chair when I tell you this) it’s the Greek Guy’s fault…

What is wrong with you anyway?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
May 7, 2010

This is probably obvious to all of you, but I just came to the realization that I’m extremely hesitant to get seriously involved with any of my daters.

Before now, I figured I wasn’t getting serious because I don’t want some boy to spoil all the single fun I’m having (still a valid reason). But when [...]

It’s rough out there

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
May 7, 2010

Two weeks ago, when I arrived 4 minutes late for the sweaty blind date, I found my date standing up at a nearby table talking with two girls. I didn’t think too much of it at first, but when we sat down he told me that they were inviting him to sit with them because it looked as though he had been stood up. Sheesh. Can’t a girl leave a cute guy waiting for 5 minutes without two single-girl vultures swooping in? It’s getting pretty brutal out here for us single girls. Well, last night, I attended a Cinco De Mayo singles dating event and it became clear to me…

Guest Post by Rebecca: Worst Date(s) of my Life, Part 2

Author: GuestBlogger
April 23, 2010

Now that you have a sense of my litmus test for bad dates, I can explain the depth of the suckitude of this most recent disaster in four words:
He brought his wife…

Friday Night Thief

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 4, 2010

There are 52 or 53 Friday nights in one year depending on what day the year starts on. It sounds like a decent number of nights, I know, but for some reason, I’m pretty heated about losing one to Crazy-Laker-Fan Guy…

When he originally asked me out I offered him Wednesday night.

“That’s lame,” he whined. “You have [...]

He’s Got Some Balls

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 23, 2010

I apologize in advance for this post.

This past Saturday, I spent 20 minutes stuck in LA traffic behind this guy:

It was literally impossible to look away. For 20 minutes straight I was staring at a gold-plated ball sack dangling from his old beat up truck bumper.

It’s hard to see from this picture, but these are [...]

Going it alone

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 21, 2010

…I started walking and remembered that the local bar by my house has karaoke on Monday nights, so I stopped in to check it out. The place was pretty empty but I’m friends with the bartender so I sat down at the bar and ordered a drink. That’s right – it only took 3 weeks to befriend the local bartender…is that a problem?:) I figured I would have one drink, sing one song and go home to bed. Fast forward two hours…

Facebook Chat Set to “Offline”

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 19, 2010

…My recent issue is with the Facebook Chat. It breaks down the safety-barrier of the skillfully tagged/untagged pictures and allows for real-time, unedited personal conversations with the people that you can’t remember having conversations with back when you spent hours upon hours in the same building. Here’s what happened…

TMI? You decide.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
March 11, 2010

I’m all for open communication – even when it comes to sharing past relationships. But, I’m currently questioning how much information is TMI (Mom, that stands for too much information) at the beginning of a dating relationship. For example: I was asked out by a male reader (Dan) via comment on my recent blog, “To date, or not to date.” While it was one of the better validations for my blog title – and my avatar’s good looks – my initial excitement about dating him may have tapered off a bit after his consistent mentioning of other girls in his email correspondence…

The Dating Sabbatical

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
February 26, 2010

As expected, the move has been a little daunting, but I’m in my new place, I get internet access in two days and I’m ready to get blogging. I took this opportunity to take a little self-imposed dating sabbatical and during this time I’ve found that my approachable-ness has been a little hit and miss…

My Pinkalicious Move

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
February 12, 2010

…When talking to another single friend of mine, we decided that maybe is more than just a moving company with a great marketing ploy…maybe it’s actually a dating service for attractive young men, looking for cool, independent women. We convinced ourselves that she should come to “help” with the move because my two movers would inevitably be hot, strong, brilliant guys that painted a truck pink to meet women…

To date, or not to date.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
February 2, 2010

…Confusing-Name Guy and I finally came to a head last weekend when it became clear that I was driving him to that edge of dating-insanity that girls are typically credited for. After ignoring a phone call from him at 7:30 PM (I had just arrived to a concert) he followed-up with two long text messages at 10:30 PM (I was still at the concert), expressing his confusion and frustration with my request that we “dial it back” – which you may remember was triggered by his offer to monogamously date after only three dates. Mind you, if a girl were to call a dater and then text him the next day (let alone three hours later)…

I’ll take one live-in boyfriend, ASAP

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 29, 2010

For the first time in a long time, I’m seeing the up-side to having a serious, live-in boyfriend. – If you had seen the charming, one-bedroom bungalow I stumbled across while apartment hunting, you would understand. What. Did you think I wanted someone to keep me warm at night? That’s what 2nd comforters are for. I’m talking about hardwood floors, a walk-in closet and a lemon tree in the backyard garden…

Masseur? Don’t mind if I do.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 23, 2010

…Under the guise of a massage, Darius’ hands “went places” that if a dater went on a first date, I would surely slap his hand away, go home and blog it out. It was clear that I would be scheduling an 80-minute massage with Darius A.S.A.P. …one where I wouldn’t be sweating through my sports bra…

Things guys have said to me

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 18, 2010

…Well, you did eat a lot…I would pick a different bra for you…It’ll grow back…

My Bad. Sorry 1st eHarmony Date Guy.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 15, 2010

…he didn’t even fall for my “money move,” which entails the following: I get to the restaurant a few minutes early, sit at the bar, buy a drink, put my card down, and leave it open. Then when he gets there, I suggest that we have a drink before sitting down for dinner. Before we get up from the bar, I sign out my tab and there you have it – I’ve bought the first round of drinks. Guys typically like this…

Guest Post by Sandiegal: Confused & Annoyed

Author: GuestBlogger
January 14, 2010

So this younger guy/boy that I’ve been dating has been fun and a whole learning experience. But recently we had a AWKWARD encounter to say the least… here goes nothing. So one night he waited for me to get off work and I picked him up and we went back to my house. No one was home, so when we get home I tell him that I have to shower. He says that he wants to join…

Guest Post by SingleInTheCity: Blind Dates

Author: GuestBlogger
January 13, 2010

So, I am the notorious single friend in my group (in fact in all of the groups I hang out in) and it is never more apparent then when you get invited to brunch and are the 9th wheel. I’m used to being the 3rd, sometimes I am even okay with the 5th wheel but 9th – well that’s just embarrassing…

I Draw the Line at Snooki

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 12, 2010

…Now, I may not be capable of a killer poof without a bumpit, my skin might as well be translucent and maybe I’m not into “tan, juiced up guidos with muscles” (with exception of that one dream where Ronnie and I were on a date at a roller-coaster theme park) but I’ll take Snookers over a guy that would say that any day…

Putting the “O” in Oxygen

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
January 2, 2010

…I stayed awake just long enough to see her mother crying about the old boyfriend that shovels coal for a living and then I fell asleep. I woke up around 3 AM to what sounded like the home shopping network. It didn’t really phase me until I heard a woman say, “now this one is really good for anal play.” I’m sorry, what??? I sat up on the couch and forced my eyes to take focus…

Props to Confusing-Name Guy

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 21, 2009

…This dater earned his nickname last weekend when we went on a pseudo-blind date to a concert – thanks to one of my flaky girlfriends who canceled at the last minute. I showed up for drinks before the concert and he was there with some friends. In short, I called him by the wrong name twice in the first 5 minutes (to be fair, it was close to his actual name, but still wrong). He actually had to correct me in front of his friends. It was one of those horrific “I am my mother’s child” moments…

eHarmony – Top 5 Profile Pics to Look Out For

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 15, 2009

…4. Wearing sunglasses in the one picture posted. What’s the deal? glass eye? If the eyes are the windows to the soul, I would be concerned about a guy that’s not willing to show them off…

December Topic: Most Embarrassing Dating Stories

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
December 4, 2009

…I’m launching Single. Monthly. Topics., and I’m lobbing you a meatball to get it going: Most Embarrassing Dating Stories. Simply click the Guest Bloggers icon and email me your story! I’ll kick it off. I double-dog-dare you to follow my lead.

The Perfect Storm…

Glittering Kitty

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 30, 2009

…Picture this: you’re a middle-aged, macho-looking guy from the Midwest. You’re perusing the aisles of slot machines, holding a gambling voucher containing your last few dollars. It’s crucial that you pick the right penny-slot to win back the money you lost at the $5 black jack table with the large-breasted, life-sized video dealer. How to decide? There’s Deal or No Deal, Jaws, Gold Fish, Alpine Adventure, Wheel of Fortune, Monopoly, Jackpot Party, Super Jackpot Party, Stampede Round-up – and on and on and on…

Is It Wrong To Fall Asleep On A 2nd Date?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 27, 2009

…During dinner, he reached across the table, pointed to and physically touched a zit I had covered up on my forehead and asked if it was a scar. I mean, not only did he notice it, he made mention of it and forced me to admit to my B-looking girl, adult acne on a first date…

My Booming Cafe Business And Its Dreaded Consequence

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 25, 2009

I promised you that if I got to level 30 in FarmVille I would join e-Harmony. The good news is, I only made it to level 26 before losing interest. The bad news is, I now have a very successful cafe in the restaurant-equivalent of FarmVille – CafeWorld. (see below)

It occurred to me that it [...]

Too Approachable?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 21, 2009

…At first I didn’t think much of this, until everyone I mentioned it to insisted that this 70-year-old university professor/author had inappropriate intentions and likely wanted to sleep with me. I insisted that was crazy, but no one would agree with me that he was just being a nice, old teacher, looking to share some knowledge. So as a test, I wrote back the following…

Pretentious side-note guy

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 18, 2009

“So my friend is currently in Brazil – which is amazing by the way – but when he gets back we’re going to go hiking in Joshua Tree.”

You see where this is going. adidas ultra boost 15 minutes later of him still talking…

“Whenever I’m in bookstores – and I’m always in bookstores – I [...]

The Alternate

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 8, 2009

…What’s amusing is the stark contrast of his actions (pre-breakup) vs. mine after I broke-up with my boyfriend of 3 years. He’s lining up dates for that weekend, while I was barricaded in my bedroom with a journal and a stockpile of movies…

How we met

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 8, 2009

…Well, you KNOW that most girls, in particular, love telling these cute stories. When I was with my last boyfriend, I dreaded that question. Not sure you can blame me. I mean, how would you feel if your boyfriend had been so drunk that he didn’t actually remember meeting you, but woke up the next morning and the only two things he could remember from the day before were your name and phone number? Impressive, maybe, but not what I would call…

Let us pray

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
November 7, 2009

…I can’t say that I was totally comfortable with the idea of thanking God for fish and chips on a first date, but I took his hand, bowed my head and said a little prayer to myself…

What comes first? The children or the 2nd date?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 28, 2009

…Now, at this point I’m getting confused. Does he have a shockingly-funny sense of humor? Does he think that this is something desperate women want to hear? Which would also mean, by the way, that he considers me desperate. Or, is he seriously considering the talent-range of our children before we’ve completed date #1?…

Uncomfortably Awkward. Older Man.

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 26, 2009

All week I’ve been looking forward to a pool party on the roof of the gym that I belong to. asics pas cher Considering that everyone at this pricey, but well-worth-it club is young, attractive and fit, I figured that going to a pool party would be the perfect chance to mingle while not [...]

Is the 3rd time really a charm?

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 22, 2009

…but, for a boy, there’s the planning, the buying of a ring and the very strong desire to be with that girl forever. And this cute, funny boy has been through that twice and he’s mentioning it to me on our first phone call. Now this could be taken a number of ways…

Mustaches, mustaches everywhere

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 11, 2009

I was in Santa Barbara wine tasting and ran into a group of boys (bachelor party) all sporting mustaches and Hawaiian shirts. asics red I’ll let you picture that for a moment…

Then a guy friend at work started growing out a…well…actually, I’m not sure what it’s called, nike air max thea soldes but [...]

Grammy’s Dating Rule

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 3, 2009

…While Grammy’s dating rule is undeniably brilliant, I’m not sure that society will allow me to play the field the way that she had. Can you imagine the look on a guy’s face when I tell him that I’m not going to stop dating other guys until he puts a diamond ring on my finger? Darn you De Beers! Grammy’s philosophy worked a little better before getting engaged involved tens of thousands of dollars…

2 for 4 on airplanes…almost 3 for 4

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
October 2, 2009

…It then occurred to me that of the 3 flights I had taken in that one week period, I was 2 for 3 in guys asking for my number. That didn’t seem normal – certainly not for me. With one more flight to take that holiday, back to LA from SF, I was a little hopeful to ride the wave and go 3 for 4. Needless to say, I was disappointed (and a little “weirded” out) to find that seat-to-seat texting guy was on my flight back to LA too, which totally threw off my airplane average…

Dating Drought Makes For Fruitful Farming

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
September 12, 2009

It started out innocently enough. I was working late on a project at work and a co-worker invited me to be her neighbor on Facebook FarmVille. Little did I know what I was getting into. One minute I’m passing the late-night hours learning how to plow and plant seeds and the next thing you know [...]

The Friend Zone, Part II

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
August 9, 2009

I was definitely surprised when I received a call from Friend Zone Guy. I was doubly surprised to hear what he had to say after I answered it:

He apologized for not calling for so long and said “you must think I’m a dick for not calling after you said you wanted to be friends.”


The Friend Zone

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
August 3, 2009

As I’ve mentioned in the past, I struggle with telling someone that it’s not working out. My friends (both girls and guys) make it sound so easy; “just don’t call/text him back,” “be honest and tell him you don’t see it going anywhere.” Well, as we learned with The Texter, the former doesn’t necessarily work. Let’s take a stab at the latter…

Private Party Crasher

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 27, 2009

I’ve been going through a bit of a truly “single” stage in that I’ve been wanting to do things on my own – going to movies, art shows, restaurants, and I even auditioned for American Idol for fun. This is partly circumstantial, in that almost all of my girlfriends have boyfriends. But, it is also [...]

The B-Looking Girl

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
July 23, 2009

I recently met up with a good guy friend of mine. You gotta love him, and the fact that he always dates really hot, very put-together girls. Especially when throughout the dinner he was venting on how frustrating it is that his girlfriend of two years is so high-maintenance.

“She’s never appreciative” – he said. “It’s [...]

The Facebook Friender

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 24, 2009

When did it become appropriate to Facebook friend someone that you met at a bar the night before? I’m fully aware that there is very little science to who you should and should not Facebook, but there’s a difference between keeping tabs on a person that you knew in high school and allowing a total [...]

The Waiter Friend

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 23, 2009

In LA, most people have friends that are actors. The actors are typically “up-and-coming” and therefore, also waiters. Transitive property would lead to: most people in LA have friends that are waiters (I apologize, servers).

I should not have been surprised with The Texter (whose persistence finally got me on a first date) took me to [...]

The Texter

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 22, 2009

There are some that believe texting has no role in dating. I am not one of those people. I think that texting with a potential dater can be fun, sexy and can take the place of some awkward or unnecessary phone conversations. That said, there are no rules when it comes to “Dater Texting” and [...]

The Approach

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
June 10, 2009

Even the most approachable of girls need to do a little role reversal from time to time.

Luckily, as ladies, we have a bit of an advantage. For one, guys are often doing the approaching, so they find it hot when a girl has the “balls” to take the wheel and do the driving. Secondly, having [...]

The Compliment

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 25, 2009

I was at a bar last night and ran into one of the mustache guys from that Santa Barbara trip – random. He was better looking without the stash (shocking) and we were chatting. He said that I was cute and that he liked “how my hair flowed over my forehead.” As I was pondering that compliment…

March Madness Addendum

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 12, 2009

So, my “successful Simon decline” theory was blown to pieces last night when I received a text message from the “I’ll cook you dinner” guy saying, “Hope I get a chance to hang out again.”
Very confusing. I really felt like I was clear and concise and had achieved my goal…clearly not. Maybe I enticed him [...]

LA Guy

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 7, 2009

I could probably go on and on about this particular dater, but all you need to know is this:

Lawyer turned screenwriter and I came home from the 1st date with a screenplay.

March Madness

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 6, 2009

I recently had 3 dates in 3 days with 3 different boys. The situation happened randomly, but proved itself to be good “field research.”

1st: 3 dates in 3 days is exhausting. I mean, consider the prep work leading up to a date; hair, make-up, outfit, shaving(?). Couple that with having to be “on” for 3 [...]

4 for 7 on Valentine’s Day

Author: Single. Approachable. Girl.
April 4, 2009

…I did not have any plans on Valentines Day and my next door neighbor – a cute, single 30-year-old – invited me to come out with he and his friends. As it happened, his friends were 6 single guys between the ages of 30 and 40. So there I am, a girl with no Valentine’s Day plans, out to dinner at a local bar with 7 single guys. And since it was v-day, it’s not like there were lots of single girls out and about to distract them…